I went to see the movie UP! on the night it came out. Without spoiling the ending for those of you who haven’t seen it yet, there was a moment at the end of the film which caused me to tear up.
As a result of this I began thinking about the topic of crying. I wondered why guys don't like to cry or why they don't think it is okay to cry.
I talked to one of my guy friends about this and he said,” I think guys don't think its okay to cry, we believe it shows weakness to others. It might depend on each person. Maybe they don't get easily emotionally moved. Maybe they have built up a strong armor to protect themselves. Maybe it’s because they need to put on a show for others.”
I still have to wonder why? Is it because society tells us that it’s not manly to cry? In my opinion, a guy who is confident enough in their manhood to tear up and cry on occasion is more “manly” then a guy who refuses to cry because he is afraid of what others will think of him or thinks that it will show that he is somehow weak. To me, crying shows that you can feel, not that you are weak.
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Hi Angela,
ReplyDeleteYour mom turned me on to your blog. And I have to say, I may take this up as a hobby seeing as I don't have one yet & I love to write! I love everything you have to say, so I will be visiting your page frequently.
I have to share something after reading this blog. Let me just tell you that I found a man that actually cries. And the first time I saw him do it, I didn't know what to do. He grabbed me around the waist, fell to his knees and lost it. I'm rarely ever speechless, but this time I just didn't know what to do or say. Now I know how he feels when I cry...
I just totally have to agree with the fact that a man is more "manly" when he does cry. They don't need to put on a front just to be tough. I think once you break a man down enough, get inside his head, see what he's about... You get the tears to come out a little easier. Like I said, I didn't know what to do, but I did find that all you can do is hold them & tell them that everything will be alright... The exact thing we like to hear when we're blubbering like babies.
Stay in touch.
-Alyssa
Hey, somehow I found you on Twitter (I think an albany search) and that brought me to your blog. You still haven't followed me back (@overitrecords) :-P.
ReplyDeleteI think it's okay for guys to cry, as long as they aren't cry babies and cry at the most inane things. There are certain things that it is definitely okay to cry about and can even make you feel better if you do cry. Guys don't cry from physical pain, it's built into our genetics not to. We could be chopping wood and accidentally chop into our foot with the axe and have to go to the hospital the whole way there and all you'll here out of us is a few swear words and some heavy breathing. It's the emotional things that get us. Close relatives dying, girlfriends of a few years dumping us, having a baby (tears of joy). As for movies, I've never all out cried, but my eyes got watery a couple times in UP! and few other movies (Marley and Me comes to mind most powerfully). Anyway just wanted to shed a guy's opinion on this subject matter.